Parenting is hard....

Parentign is such a scary huge responsibility. With so many different parenting guides out there and different theories on how to gro a great human being how on earth can you feel confident that the decisions you make are the right ones.

My big issue right now is financial, I have savings but have to decide how to use them, is it best to put my money towards a house and lead a frugal but safe life paying off that mortgage, should I be investing $100,000.00 sending Flynn to the school of choice or should I use the money that we do have on family holidays and days out to make life fun.

What priorities make a good childhood and what things that I miss out on will cause him to resent me as an adult....

Need to focus

I've let myself get a crush on an unnattainable person again. This is a huge flaw I need to sort out. I could have ten guys chasing me and am only ever interested in the guy who shows the least interest.
I am making a concerted effort to concentrate on my friendships, family and study for the rest of this year.
I am absolutely banned from chasing boys because the ones I chase generally arent worth chasing.

Weekly goals 30/3/09

Ok I havent done any weekly goals in such a long time and I really need to restart this.

Goals for this week are:
- Clean house every night before bed.
- Spend time with a girl friend every day this week.
- Do first tafe module.
- Do an exercise Video atleast 4 times.
- Pick up mobile phone.

Bec's words of wisdom

People who say you need to earn their trust ill never learn o trust fully. Trust should be given and only distrust can be earnt. Otherwise you are blaming new people for sins of others.

New Hair

I've gotten far too boring in the last few years with having nasty boyfriends and nasty office jobs so I've decided to take a giant leap backwards and find the person I used to be. That of course is best done with fashion :)
Here is my new hair:

Catch up on my baby

Since I'm so incredibly slack at updating here is a quick update of Flynn's life until now:

Flynn was born on the 27th of June at 3:30pm by Ceasar after a 26 hour labour. He was in distress and was born very sick (blue and not breathing) and was rushed away by four paediatricians. I also went into shock during the operation and was in recovery for a long time then they took me to my room and I did not get to see Flynn until 1:30 am. In that time noone really told me what was going on and I was very scared. It was horrible but then they brought my baby to me and he was fine.

We were in hospital for 6 days, he was on an antibiotic drip for the first 3 and then needed no help after that. Unfortunately he had very bad reflux which eventually turned out to be a lactose intolerance so we swapped him to soy formula raher than breastmilk and he was thriving.

This is Flynn at 3 months, he was a very quiet baby at this stage and would just sit and watch everyone. Always very smiley until a camera would be brought out.

This is Flynn 6 months old on Christmas day propped up on his cousins new bike. He didn't learn to sit until 8 months although he could crawl by 6 and a half so this photo had to be taken very quickly.

And this is him now, crawling, smiling and beautiful. He has also now learnt to pull hmself up to standing so it won't be long until he is running everywhere.

Back to blogging.

I cannot believe I have neglected this blog since before I even had a baby. I have internet at home once more and will try get my blog back up and running.

Quick update on me:
- I had a baby boy on the 27th of June 08 named Flynn.
- I seperated from Andy last Sept, there was alot of bitterness and fighting but we are getting to a point where we can get along quite well.
- I moved to Katoomba and have a cute duplex all to myself (and Flynn obviously), I've been decorating and will post some pics soon.
- I'm still off work but have gotmy website up and running and have a bit of work from m business.
- Can't think of anything else right now but will update later.

Cool New Zealand Vodka Ad

The progression of my belly...

The beginning

34 Weeks

36 Weeks

38 Weeks

Hrmm and I thought I was getting good at this

-12 As a 1930s wife, I am Very Poor (Failure) Take the test!

God I'm Crap

I just realised I haven't done a post on this thing for over 3 months now.  That is not at all living up to my new years resolutions is it?

I have 14 days until my due date and have stopped working so hopefully I'll make some more time to update on here.  Plus soon I'll have some cute baby photos to post.

Quote of the day

Go either very cheap or very expensive.  It's the middle ground that is fashion nowhere.

 - Karl Lagerfield

Diet starts now

The picture didn't turn out very well but this is my lunch today.  I am officially starting to eat healthier.  I've been giving into my cravings way too much recently and I'm worried I'm going to be one of those women who gain fifty kilos during pregnancy and then take forever to lose it again.

Now don't get me wrong; this doesn't in any way mean I'm planning to not eat any chocolate or ice cream or junk food.   Those are definitely necessary to keep me sane and make the baby happy.  I'm just going to try and make sure I'm getting enough serves of fruits and veggies and all the protein and stuff that I need.  then pig out on chocolate as snacks rather than as meals (yes I have been doing that sometimes).

I also really have to start forcing myself to exercise as all my muscles have disappeared and been replaced with flab lately.  It's very scary.

I thought I'd include the recipe for the salad I had for lunch today in case any of you want to try it (it was really filling)

Tuna Salad:

95g tin of tuna w/ tomato and onion (wrapped in paper towel to squeeze off the extra oil)

150g Coles Salad Mix (contains lettuce, carrot and cabbage)

handful of pitted kalamata olives (rinsed and sliced)

handful of grape tomatoes (cut into quarters)

Half a handful of grated cheese (need to put some fat in there)

drizzling of balsamic vinegar

I would have really liked to put some avocado in there as well but I didn't have any.

Feel free to send me recipes guys.  (easy recipes)

My favourite site of the day

Go check out Garfield Minus Garfield which tells the tale of Jon Arbuckle and his eccentricities....

Hrmmm

well I appear to be having trouble embedding the video into the previous post. Anyone wanna give me some tips?
If not you don't get to see the video :-p

This made me cry (at my desk at work how embarassing)

Things I love Thursday

• Writing up my business plan. I’m getting a great feeling from doing this and am discovering skills I didn’t even realize I had.
• Bread rolls with gravy – Maybe this is just a pregnancy thing but it tastes so good. Normally I hate salt but I think my baby likes it 
• Being back in Recruitment – I worked for an IT recruitment agency for four years as my first “real” job and now I am temping for the next month in a different IT Recruitment agency. It’s nice to be back in the industry that I learnt so much in, and to see that not much has changed, especially for such a fast moving industry as IT.
• LinkedIn. I’ve never really used it before but now that I’ve decided to start a business I’ve discovered how great it can be as a networking tool. I’m currently building up my network and getting referrals. Feel free to add me to your network: http://www.linkedin.com/in/officemagic
• My boyfriend > Kisses for Andy xoxoxo

Is this the most beautiful smile ever..... (you better say yes)

This is my neice with my beautiful patient cat Mack.

The next frame she is licking him to see how he tastes but this moment here is perfect.

Quote of the day

"I do not try to dance better than anyone else.

I only try to dance better than myself."

--Mikhail Baryshnikov

Step 1

I now have an ABN (Australian Business Number) how exciting.

Next step is to register the business name and domain name and then I can really get under way.

I've nearly completed my business plan as well.  And I think I've done a pretty good job for my first time.  I'm just a bit confused as to if my pricing and short term goals are realistic.

Update on my work status

As I mentioned a few weeks ago I did end up losing the job I was working it.  Coincidentally it happened straight after I told them I was pregnant but lets not dwell on that.

I'm now temping until the baby comes which is fantastic.  The work is easy and fun and everyone is really friendly.  Plus because your constantly changing roles it's not boring.  

Looking at our finances we can't really afford for me to take much time off work to be a stay at home mum once the baby comes.   I've always wanted to be home as much as possible when I have kids to spend time with them and help them learn and develop.  This baby is about 7 years earlier than I had planned to enter mummyland but that's no reason why he shouldn't get the childhood he deserves.

I've been thinking long and hard on this one and have finally come up with the solution.

I'm going to start a Virtual Assistant business so that I can work from home, be a fun games and cupcake baking mummy, and also build my career at the same time.

I have about six years strong administration experience and feel that this is a great starting point to be able to offer this service.  I've also been studying Event Management this year and would like to build the business up to specialize in Events.

I'm a little bit scared because this is a pretty huge undertaking and I'm going to have to complete all the set up work whilst working full time so that once I do finish working I can jump straight into marketing and getting some clients.

Everyone wish me luck and I'll give you lots of updates along the way.

Weekly Goals for w/c 25/03/2008

Taking the lead from the lovely miss Gala Darling; I’ve decided to start setting weekly goals for myself.

Sometimes when you set big heavy goals for yourself be it yearly, quarterly or even monthly it can be too huge to manage. Looking at such a large concept of something that needs to be done it can be hard to decide where to start and hard to feel any sense of accomplishment as you work towards it. Plus, if your anything like me it’s easy to just forget them and end up setting the same goal year after year without ever getting to tick them off your list.

Shorter goals are much easier to focus on and give a greater sense of achievement.

My goals for this week are:

- Reply to all emails, phone calls and text messages I receive.
- Get out of bed by 7.00am every morning. (I know that doesn’t sound hard but believe me, I’m nearly 6 months pregnant, heavy, tired and lazy. This is harder than it sounds)
- Post on my blog at least once a day.
- Make sure I eat three meals a day every day.
- Start writing up a business plan (I’ll fill you all in on this in the coming weeks)

Messing with Mondays #2

Now I know some of you may believe that there have been several Monday’s in between the first and second installment of this series, but obviously you’re imagining it. One week has passed…. I promise… Trust me…..

Ok, perhaps I’m exaggerating. Well I hope you all had lovely Monday’s in between and I will definitely be updating this weekly so you won’t be left all alone and defenceless against the cruel early mornings again.

Tips for this week are:

#6 Have a long shower or bath and give yourself a face and scalp massage. (If your on water restrictions do this out of the shower)
#7 Drink at least two litres of water. Not only does this make you feel great but it makes you look great too.
#8 Make sure you get enough sleep. This will improve you week no end. If you have to leave the dishes or clothes on the floor then do it. Some things are more important.
#9 Do something spontaneous. Be it venturing outside your usual area for lunch, joining a tai chi class in the park or asking out that cute girl or guy you’ve had your eye on. Do it! Doing the same thing all the time is just plain boring, not to mention incredibly draining.
#10 Go to the library and get a book you wouldn’t normally read. Research the history of a nation you know little about or the religion of your new neighbours. Or just get yourself a trashy chick lit. Sometimes reading about martini’s and art openings is the best medicine.

Quote of the day

I'm so fucking glamorous I piss glitter!

- Unknown

Quote of the day

When you succeed in creating a fulfilling career, it will be uniquely you.  Your career will absolutely ooze with your own creative self-expression.   It may take the external form of a job, a business, a web site, volunteer work, or some other entity, but it will never be generic because you are not a generic person.  the right career will be so ridiculously you that if you thought about replacing yourself with someone else, it just wouldn't make sense.

- Steve Pavlina

Style dedication

I know many people have blogged about this article, but I have to give in and join the masses as I can't stop thinking about it.

Basically The New York Magazine ran an article about five creative types who wear only one colour.  Always.

I can't decide what I think of the idea.  I do think that they look terrific and a lot of the follow on posts I've seen about it have some great idea's on how to pull this off but I can't comprehend the dedication it would take to do it full time.   I could easily wear all green one day, or all pink or any colour really.  (Probably not white because I'm a grub but oh well)  But I think it would put so many limits on what you can and can't wear. 

Think of the heart break, you walk into a shop and see a dress that makes your heart stop, it's bright, it's vibrant, it makes you look like a star.... BUT.... It doesn't come in your colour.  Too much pain for me.

I've always been this way with sticking to styles I would love to be "The girl in the purple dresses" or something and have such dedication to a style and be able to pull it off.   My taste is too eclectic.  As a teenager I spent about four years being the only Goth who managed to sneak pink into every outfit (often barbie brand from the kids section).  

I don't look nearly as 'together' as these people but I do get t have alot of fun. 

Baby boy pics

Here is a profile of my baby's face and cute little photo of his feet.

I must say at this age his profile kind of looks like Charlie Brown lol.

Slugs and snails and puppy dogs tails

That's what little boys are made of....

I certainly hope not seeing as I'm terrified of slugs and snails although I do have alot of love for puppy dogs tails.

Hurry up and get to the point Bec!!

Alright, Alright I'm sorry.

I'M HAVING A BOY!!!!

I'm so excited.  I was really hoping for a boy.  Of course the cliche is true and I would have been happy with whatever as long as it's healthy but let's be honest here boys are so much more fun.

The only downside to having a boy is the clothes.  Baby girls have such cuter clothes and an amazingly huge range.  Boy's clothes are pretty boring.  If anyone knows of any great shops (that are in Australia or deliver to) please let me know.

xoxoxo

Well, it looks like I lied....

It's been nearly a month since I promised to post more and I haven't posted even once.

I don't have a single excuse for you guys but we will see if the future shows me to be better.

At least this does prove I have incredible skills at procrastination.

Naughty little blogger

Well I haven't been getting off to such a good start neglecting my poor blog so much in it's first month of existence.

I know no excuses will do but heres mine anyway:

- I've been working really hard at the office trying not to get fired.

- I've been going through a particularly tired spot in my pregnancy.

- I've been stressing heaps about money and the future.

I've made peace with alot of things and am feeling alot better now and will start doing some more regular posts from now on.

Man wakes up in coffin at his own wake

http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2008/01/21/1200764121109.html

Now sleeps with one eye open and will never trust his family again...

I never thought I would say this but...

Oh my god I want a pair of crocs!!!!!!!!!

I want. I want. I want.

And guess who's birthday is coming up...

These aren't even slightly hideous.

How come noone told me crocs made such cute shoes.

Re-enactment of my morning

Andy: “Honey”

Me: *grunt*

Andy: “Baby it’s time to wake up”

Me: (doing a stunning impression of a sullen teenager) “Why should I”

Andy: “Cos you have to go to work”

Me; *laugh* “No I don’t today is a weekend”

Andy: “No it’s not today is Friday”

Me: *puts pillow over head and rolls over to go back to sleep*

Andy: “Sweetie you HAVE to get up now or you’re going to be late”

Me: “How do you know today is a Friday”

Andy: “Cos I looked on my phone”

Me: *totally crushed* Oh Fuck! (Obviously beaten by his logic)



Now there’s a point where you’ve got to wonder; why does he put up with me?

I have a lovely boyfriend.

Although I’m still certain today is meant to be a Saturday.

Top News

Breaking News is always of the highest importance...

Sell outs?

Nudie have partnered with McDonalds. Am I the only one who finds that slightly disturbing.

(Nudie is a brand who make natural fresh juices)

Door bells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles.

These are a few of my favourite things:

• Fashion
• My boyfriend
• Sitting in café’s in the sunshine
• Over the top costume jewellery
• Brightly coloured magazine spreads
• Books
• Cuddles
• Puppies and Kittens
• Friends
• Inane Celebrity Gossip
• My mum’s cooking
• The bush
• Tattoos
• Unrealistic hair colours
• The beach
• Fun hats
• Inspirational Blogs
• Bed
• Mangoes
• Nature photos
• Beautiful hippy girls in petticoats
• Beer gardens with friends on a lazy day
• Intricate notebooks
• Photogrphy
• Love
• Chocolate Brownies
• Poetry

Messing With Mondays #1

Well everyone knows how awful Monday's are, having to wake up to an alarm clock after two blissful days of slumber, trying to get your brain into gear, being pushed and shoved by people on the train on the way into work, being ready to go back to bed by 10 in the morning.

Awful, Awful, Awful.  Personally I've had enough and I think we all need to do our bit to make Monday's nicer.  Not just for ourselves but for the world around us.

Every Monday I'll leave five tips on how to improve your day and everyone elses.  I invite all of you to leave your tips in the comments below.

#1 - Smile at everyone you see.

#2 - Make yourself a nutritious breakfast and take the time to sit and enjoy it

#3 - Wear your favourite underwear

#4 - Give yourself a treat - A chocolate muffin for morning tea or even just a few extra scoops in your milo

#5 - Buy or pick some flowers to brighten up your home, work or bedroom.

My fashion gene is defect

Before becoming pregnant dressing up was one of my favourite things to do.

Lately nothing inspires me, when I go shopping I can't find anything I like (which is great financially) and none of the clothes in my wardrobe seem quite right.

I'm not quite at the stage where I need maternity clothes yet but I'm feeling a bit fat and bloated so my clothes don't sit quite right.

It's only to weeks to go until my birthday and I want to find something fun and glamorous to wear but I am an idea free zone.

Throw me ideas people.

Gross Pregnancy lesson off the day:

So I was browsing through a pregnancy message board when I come accross a post titled "Mucous Plug" I texted my sister to ask what it is and her reply was "you don't want to know"

She's right, I don't! Neither do you.

Why is making babies so gross!!!

And where is my glow?

Beautiful People.

Beautiful people

We share the same back door

And it isn't right

We never met before

But then

We may never meet again

If I weren't afraid you'd laugh at me

I would run and take all your hands

And I'd gather everyone together for a day

And when we gather'd

I'll pass buttons out that say

Beautiful people

Then you'd never have to be alone

'Cause there'll always be someone

With the same button on as you

Beautiful people

You ride the same subway

As I do ev'ry morning

That's got to tell you something

We've got so much in common

I go the same direction that you do

Beautiful people

You look like friends of mine

And it's about time

That someone said it here and now

I make a vow that some time, somehow

I'll have a meeting

Invite ev'ryone you know

I'll pass out buttons to

The ones who come to show

Beautiful people

Never have to be alone

'Cause there'll always be someone

With the same button on as you

"Melanie Safka"

Ever since I was a small child I have loved Melanie Safka and all her beautiful songs. I guess I still am a bit of a hippy at heart.

I was lying in bed trying to get to sleep and 'Beautiful People' was stuck in my head, I was getting a bit soppy and sentimental thinking about all the people I have met and especially about the people who have moved on from my life.

I believe we should use every opportunity given to us to connect with other people in this world. I would like to go to sleep every night knowing that 'today I have succeeded in touching someones life'

So Beautiful People, join me in my adventures, share my joys, my sorrows and let me share yours. The Internet gives us the opportunity to find so many like minded beautiful people. I will be wearing my button with pride. Will you?

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